Do you ever feel like you’re spinning your wheels and never getting anywhere? You’re not alone! As a busy mom of 3 very active children (One of which is entering her first melodramatic teenage year) I fully understand how we can constantly rush and rush, yet never really achieve what we set out to do each day.
Not that anyone really notices, but we sure as hell bust our ass every day doing the little trivial things that if we did not get done, then the whole shit show would fall apart anyways. Do you see our dilemma? We are constantly running in circles barely getting traction while tiring ourselves out and it needs to stop!
Let’s make this our year to finally get our family life organized and I truly believe it’s possible with some much needed tweaks along the way. Although, I can maybe see hoarding a larger quantity of coffee & dry shampoo while we adjust to some things. (Just my personal tip) Although it may not seem doable most days, it’s still a possibility and I’m running with it…like a toddler trying to escape nap time. We got this!
I have put together a list of some crucial steps that must take place before we can get this “show to the production line” in 2020 and finally have productive and successful days as busy moms!
1. We must start our day as well rested as possible I understand wanting to stay up the night before indulging in every second of silence that we can…believe me, I do! But we are setting ourselves up for complete and utter failure by not resting our minds. Coffee is magical, but not that good! Sleep is vital to this whole operation. With little ones getting sleep can be difficult if not impossible. Incorporate help from family or friends to watch your little bundle of joy so you can catch some much needed Zzzz’s.
2. Give yourself time to get ready for the day FIRST Whether it’s having 30 minutes of silence to enjoy a cup of coffee while the sun rises, or brushing your hair and applying your makeup without having to rush and ultimately stabbing yourself with the mascara wand. Set your alarm to wake you early and allow yourself some extra time to set the tone of your day in a peaceful way. It actually does work very well with step #1!
3. Don’t snap at the first sign of struggle Kids will be kids and they seem to come programmed knowing exactly what buttons to push to trigger your last nerve. So set the morning vibes and don’t back down when the trouble or inevitable bickering amongst siblings starts to ensue. Be strong, Mama! You got this.
4. Sometimes we need to go with the flow Just as important as it is to not snap at the first sign of struggle, it’s also very important to learn to just go with the flow of things. “Picking your battles” is a very real thing with Motherhood. It allows you to not stress yourself out over every little mess or shout (even if you really want to react) it’s best to just pick your battles and go with the flow. You and your children will be much happier for it.
5. Have a routine set in place for the whole family By having a routine set in place, you can help eliminate confusion or too many options for things to not get taken care of. (Example: Have your children clean their plates/bowls from the table after finishing breakfast. Have them lay out their school clothes the night before school to avoid rushing in the mornings. Likewise, lay out your work clothes the night before and enjoy that extra time in the mornings. Sit your trash can out the night before it runs…this is a huge sanity saver! Taking some time to plan and establish a routine of getting things in place will definitely save you and your whole family the headache when time runs short and you will all be glad you did.
6. Understand that things will not always go as planned Even if you plan everything out and have it all done the night before, things can and still do go wrong. Your child wakes up sick and throws up on the way out the door on the morning of your business meeting. Your child tells you the morning of their science project being due that they “forgot” to tell you about. You spill coffee on your brand new outfit, you forget your wallet at home, someone cuts you off in the parking lot stealing your spot and now you have to circle it 27 more times. Life happens and it gives us plenty of opportunities to scream and curse the skies, but we can choose not to. Not that I always take the high road in that department, I am however realizing that taking the high road isn’t just for other people, it’s more importantly for me and my inner peace.
7. Forgive yourself and try again tomorrow There will be days where things are going to go smooth and you snap anyways. You have a moment of weakness and simply snap in the middle of your child starting his story over again for the 89th time because he left out yet another small detail. You’ll feel horrible because of it and ask for forgiveness and of course they forgive you, but ultimately you have to forgive yourself, too. We are all human and most of us try the very best we can to do right by other people in hopes they do the same for us. But, at the end of the day all you can control is how you react and respond and what you’re willing to do different the next time the opportunity presents itself. You are not a failure simply because you fail at something. The world is full of great people who have failed more times than I have even attempted something, but they would never have gotten to where they are if they accepted the mindset of failure. Forgive yourself for your short comings (because we all have them) and pick yourself up and try again tomorrow.
As I always say, life is a journey and a roller coaster one at that. With each high and low comes the same gift, a lesson. Experience in something we gained as a result of having gone through it. Whether good or bad, we are stronger because of it.
Choose to accept that every day is going to have its own set of challenges with ups & downs. As long as you’re doing your part in minimizing the chances of things going crazy by planning, having a routine, remaining calm and going with the flow of things so when life throws you a curve ball (as it will) you can forgive yourself for reacting poorly in the moment of a tough situation and try again tomorrow.
Allow yourself grace and understanding that better days are coming and you will get through all of the tough days just like you have gotten through all of them before that you could not see a way out of or an end in sight. You’re stronger and more capable than you think and you totally got this!
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Until next time, Stay Blessed Beautiful Mommies! ♥