What is the very first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word “introvert”? Is it outgoing, spontaneous, or being a social butterfly? Or perhaps, is it shy, meek, boring or my personal favorite, anti-social… Some of which may be true for a lot of people. However, I am going to be writing this article from my own personal life’s perspective on being introverted.
Let’s dive right in, shall we?
You see, Introverts are not always anti-social, shy, lazy, or boring at all. At least in my case, I do enjoy getting to know people and engaging in meaningful conversations. It’s the shallow “small talk” that I cannot and will not participate in long-term. It is just not who I am. I am not fake, conceited or above anyone else just because I prefer not talking about the weather or what’s currently trending… It’s because I flat-out do not care. That does not serve any purpose or value to myself, my life, my goals or my dreams. Upon meeting me, most people often find themselves perplexed and unable to read me. (Take a seat and join the club) I am not one to be easily read, if at all. That aside, I am one of the most simple and laid back people you will ever meet. Not a lot bothers me these days. In life, problems will always arise. However, it is very important to remember that you have the power in how you react to each of them. No one said this would be easy. Introverts especially have a harder time dealing with this, because over time little issues turn into really big problems if not dealt with accordingly. I would highly recommend taking it on a case by case basis, and not letting it bottle up. Advice, I too, am constantly telling myself. If you find it really hard, reach out to a friend or loved one for wisdom and guidance.
As an introvert and mother of three, I am often misread and accused of being overly complicated or emotionally driven. No, what I am is extremely passionate about a lot of things. Family has and always will be my biggest love and passion in life. So, when approaching that with me, yeah, I can and sometimes will be overly complicated. My momma bear claws are always out when dealing with someones issues or opinions over my children. That will always be a line no one wants to cross with me. “Introverted” would no longer be a word in my vocabulary at that point.
“A mother’s love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes remorselessly all that stands in its path.” ~ Agatha Christie
Turning my focus towards my goals and dreams in life, I have come to realize that being introverted isn’t a red flag or a stop sign at all. I have benefited from my introverted intuition far more than any opportunities missed because of any lack of exertion or fear on my part. I will be turning thirty years old in 2019, and in my nearly twenty nine years on this earth, I have managed to do a lot of great things. I have also burnt many bridges and friendships along the way. I have learned many lessons the hard way and I have rebuilt myself time and time again. Haven’t we all? Introversion isn’t a stigma. It can be used as a powerful tool. What I gather from my own introverted self, is greater depth when it comes to problem solving, looking outside of the box and seeing the bigger picture. Perhaps, even foreseeing potential issues long before they arise. Introversion gives many people an advantage in life. You just have to see it and believe it! I have also learned that there is no perfect time to start something, but I have learned that there are a lot of wrong ways of going about it. Over the past two years, I have really dug deep and have done a lot of “soul-searching”. Some of the things that I found, I didn’t particularly like. It first takes identifying the problem, before a solution can be reached. What a revelation that can be!
My point is being an introvert doesn’t make you weird or a loner, in the least. It doesn’t make you less desirable than those people who are highly extraverted. On the contrary, introversion with intellectual depth is quite attractive and it possesses strength, power and intuitive thinking that is essential in today’s world. Believe me, big successful companies do not have one single person that is sitting there and coming up with idea after idea, handling marketing and then executing them all by hand… No, no, no… There is a HUGE need for outside of the box thinkers. People who are great problems solvers and who are highly creative, intuitive and have a natural ability to connect with people on a level that actually matters. You just have to look deep inside and really think about what it is that you enjoy doing… What part of your introverted nature do you excel in the most. Then when you find your answer, take it and run with it. Show the world, babe! Show them that you’re unstoppable…
Here is an absolutely amazing link to an article titled, “10 Positive Affirmations for Introverted Women” Please, give it a read! =)